Steps as an Engaged Couple
April 16, 2018

The First 10 Things To Do When You Get Engaged!

If you’re still staring at that bling on your finger and finding new and creative ways to show off your hand in all your Instagram photos, you probably just got engaged!! Congratulations! Whether you’ve been dreaming of this exciting moment since you were a little girl, or never really gave much thought to a wedding, there are a few things to do now that you’re engaged.

Let’s take a look at the top ten things to do now that you’re engaged!


This is a big moment for you and your fiancé, but it’s a special time for your families. Bring everyone together to share in your happiness. It doesn’t have to be a fancy engagement party. A backyard barbecue, dinner at a favorite local restaurant, or a picnic in a park will suffice, but if a big party is more your style, break out the bubbly and start toasting to the bride and groom.

Take a breath and enjoy a quiet moment.

Planning a wedding can be infamously stressful, and once you start rolling – picking dates, venues, florists, and more – it’s hard to slow down the wedding train. Before you get inundated with the details, just take some time for you and your fiancé. Consider a quiet weekend away to settle into the idea of being engaged.

Pick a date and/or venue.

This really depends on what is most important to you. If you have a special date picked out for your wedding – maybe your grandparent’s 50thanniversary or a holiday like New Year’s Eve –  you should consider venues that are available on that particular date. If you are flexible about your date, you may want to start with finding a venue that fits your needs and vision for your big day.

Hire a wedding planner.

A wedding coordinator can make planning the wedding of your dreams a much easier and more enjoyable process. A wedding coordinator will have invaluable insight based on their experience. You can choose full-planning, partial-planning, or day-of coordination based on your needs and budget.

Choose your wedding party.

Decide how many attendants you want to include in your bridal party, including, a maid of honor, matron of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girls, and/or ring bearers. Have fun asking your friends and family members to have such special roles in your wedding – and make it special! Host a brunch or dinner, or deliver gift boxes with a special invitation to be a part of your big day.

Make the guest list.

You’ll need a final guest list to send invitations to the big day, but it will also help your family and friends plan showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties.

Go wedding dress shopping.

Saying “yes” to the dress is a milestone in preparing for your wedding, but it can also set the style for your wedding and reception. Plus, depending on how long your engagement is, you’ll want enough time to make sure your favorite dress can be ordered, altered, and fitted before you walk down the aisle.

Pick your colors and style for your event.

Choosing the color palette for your ceremony and reception can help you when you speak to vendors and start choosing flowers, décor, and bridesmaid dresses.

Research, compare, and hire vendors.

It takes a village to bring your wedding vision to life. Your wedding coordinator can help guide you, but check out local vendor websites and social media accounts to find ones that evoke the style you’re looking for. Meet vendors in person and ask for recommendations from previous clients.

Keep your eyes on the prize.

Don’t get too overwhelmed with the details that you lose sight of the big picture. At the end of the day, it won’t matter who sits next to who or how the napkins are folded on the tables. Your wedding is about starting a life with the person you love. Savor this special time in your lives and focus on what’s important – each other!